A BRIDE who moaned about her parents slashing her wedding budget in half has been slated as "whingy and entitled".
The daughter, who's recently engaged, said her parents earn $450,000 (£317,000) a year and "always said they’d pay for my wedding when I decide to get married".
Posting on Reddit, she explained: "I set my budget around 25k (£17,000) and started getting estimates on venue, photographer, videographer, etc.
"My dad said the budget was 40k (£28,000) (which I knew I’d be way below) so I wouldn’t have to stress about diy-ing the whole thing and enjoy the planning process.
"My mom has consistently pushed me to cut corners and have a cheaper wedding".
But the parents then changed their minds, with the bride adding: "My parents backtracked and gave me a final wedding budget of 20k (£14,000).
"My mom is also pushing me to use vendors her friends used instead of me finding people my that fit my style.
"I wouldn’t be so upset with them had the budget been 20k from the beginning but it seems as if they pulled that number out of thin air.
"They also created this budget after my mom spent 3000 (£2,000) on my dress and veil so I’m now left with 17k ($12,000).
"Another issue I have is they have no problem buying baseball tickets for $200 (£140) piece and spending $100+ (£70) on dinner multiple nights a week.
"They also just bought one of my younger brothers a car (he’s in his junior year of college)."
The bride is now threatening to elope because her mum's "being so picky" but says her parents "flipped", meaning she "feel(s) as if there's no winning in the situation".
Commenting on the thread, one person slammed: "Sorry but you sound incredibly entitled whinging about your parents only giving you 20k for a single day event. That's an annual salary for some people.
"Your mum is being overly pushy which I can imagine is really annoying. If she offered to pay for a wedding as a gift then it should be yours to design."
Another said: "You told your mom that you'd 'rather elope' because you don't like the wedding budget. That's ultimatum territory.
"That's '40k and I call the shots or I walk' territory. Your parents are a**holes here for being wishy washy about the budget, making it hard for you to actually do wedding planning. But you're the a**hole too.
"The money they're giving you for your wedding is a gift based on the fact that they want to participate and contribute to your wedding, and you're leveraging that against them to get more.
"This is why people are normally cautioned to be careful about accepting big gifts and large amounts of money from family, because there are always strings attached.
"If your parents offer you 20k for the wedding, graciously accept it, and to get what you really want, pay the difference on your own."
While a third wrote: "I’m planning my wedding for 5k and paying for it myself. I’ve been saving for it for years.
"I can’t imagine being given 17k for my wedding. I’d do whatever they wanted."
And one reader slated: "You said that you were confident that you could organize your wedding all-in for $25k, so you’re really talking about a difference of only $5k.
"You’re free to have whatever type of wedding you’d like, but on your parents’ dime, I don’t think it’s outrageous that your mom provided her input.
"Just because your parents can afford to contribute more doesn’t mean they’re obligated to do so.
"The real kicker is where you described your parents’ spending habits on entertainment and dates for themselves. Why tf(the f***) would this be an issue?
"They’ve earned the ability to enjoy their financial success and you have no right to judge their spending habits as if they were blowing money that should be used for your special day.
"Lastly, threatening to scrap the whole event because you didn’t get your way is childish and manipulative.
"$20,000 is more than enough to have a lovely wedding and you and your partner could always contribute your own money (maybe your mom’s attempts to be frugal wouldn’t seem so ridiculous if you were spending your own money.)"
But others sympathised with the bride, writing: "She isn't demanding the money because she feels entitled to it.
"She is upset because she was told an amount, planned with that amount, and had that amount slashed heavily. Being upset about that isn't entitlement."
A second person commented: "The parents (mom, in particular) are obviously a-holes in this situation. They shouldn’t have given a number if they weren’t committed to it."
"And a third said: "$25k is really not that much money for a wedding, especially when the initial budget was $41k.
"Traditionally, parents pay for weddings. Her parents make more than enough household income to afford a $25k wedding.
"And they promised that they would pay for her wedding pretty much all her life. So why is she entitled? She tried to collect on a promise that her parents made to her."
Source: Read Full Article