AS we're sure all mums will agree, leaving your little one with a new babysitter is a hugely stressful experience – which is why lots of parents prefer to leave them with their granny and grandpa.
That said, one dad is seriously regretting his decision after his parents "permanently damaged" his nine-month-old daughter's body behind his back.
Sharing his dilemma on Reddit's "Am I the A*****" forum, the new dad explained how him and his partner had agreed that they would leave it up to their daughter to decide if and when she wanted to get her ears pierced.
He wrote: "I was never into the idea of it being done as a baby when they can’t consent, like my fiancée parents pierced her ears when she was a baby and she always hated wearing earrings. Still doesn’t wear any."
However, the dad was getting increasing frustrated with his parents when they "wouldn't shut up about it" and kept gushing over how cute she'd look.
But the couple stood their ground and insisted that it wasn't going to happen – which prompted the grandparents to take matters into their own hands.
My parents didn’t shut up about it for a while saying 'she’d look so cute'. But we told them already no and that’s our answer. When they babysat for us once, they got one of my mom’s friends to do it.
He continued: "When they babysat for us once they got one of my mom’s friends to do it and we were f***ing p***ed they went behind our backs.
"We stopped talking to them after that for disrespecting our decision. Everyone was saying we were making a big deal and we can’t cut them out their granddaughters life over something like that."
Once they'd cooled off a little, the parents decided they'd let their daughter see her grandparents again – but only if one of them was there to supervise.
"They won’t be left alone with her," he added. "That’s where everyone is still saying we’re being massive a-holes because we’re still punishing them over something that’s not a big deal and we’re treating them like children."
To make matters worse, his fianceé's parents also think their punishment is "too much" and that they should go back to how it was before.
"We’re still not wanting to change our minds on our conditions so it’s pinning everyone against us," he added. "Are we being assholes that we just don’t trust them alone with her and rather one of us be there always?"
Needless to say, the post prompted some fiery in the forum – but the overwhelming majority of people sided with thew new parents.
One replied: "I wouldn't be leaving my child with them ever again. My mum cut my daughters fringe and I lost it; this is another level all together.
"What's going to be next thing they decide they know better on? They're lucky they're even allowed to see her to be honest."
Another added: "They permanently damaged their granddaughter’s ears to put jewellery in, which can cause an infection and possibly kill the child if it was not done with sterile gear, which is not confirmed because it was just one of their friends and possibly not a professional."
A third said: "If they're willing to do this in complete disregard of your wishes, who knows what else they might do… The compromise of not allowing them around your child without one of you present is a reasonable one."
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