Mum was upset when I said I was marrying a man 5 years her senior – people stare at us but we’ve been happy for 17 years

A COUPLE with an age gap of over 32 years are now celebrating 17 years of marriage, despite their families disapproving of the decades between them.

Carrie, 44, and her husband, Alan, 76, are regularly mistaken for father and daughter but she insists they are soulmates in every way and they knew it from the start.

The couples romance first blossomed 22 years ago when he was 55 and she was just 23 and working for a client of Alan's.

Carrie says she knew Alan was older but they’d built such a warm connection over the phone at work, so she was keen to meet in person.

After Alan invited her to lunch, they talked for hours and seemed to agree on every subject. The connection was instant and they’ve been together ever since.

Carrie told Jam Press: “We’ve been a couple since 1998 and married since 2003.

“I’d briefly dated a man 15 years older than me and Alan had been on dates with younger women but none as young as I was.

“We have so many personality traits that match that we are very compatible."

Alan has two grown-up daughters from a previous marriage who are older than Carrie, but said he was honest with them early on about the serious intentions he had for his new younger lover.

For Carrie it was different as Alan was five years older than her mum, who was concerned about the relationship from the start.

She explained: “My mother was very upset when I told her about Alan, who is five years older than her. She was concerned that Alan was using me.

“I waited to tell my mother out of fear of a hostile reaction, for some time even after Alan had proposed marriage.

“Most of my other family and friends were accepting of Alan, especially after they met him and realised how much he cared for me.”

But people still appear shocked when they see them together and find out they are in a relationship, as they often mistake them for father and daughter.

“While on a tour in Europe two elderly men, sitting in front of us on a tour bus, turned around and asked if I was Alan’s daughter or girlfriend. When Alan said she’s my wife, they looked so shocked.

“On another trip to Europe, a cruise, two single ladies in their fifties who were on the cruise asked Alan if he, and his daughter, would like to join them for dinner.

“When Alan said I was his wife and he would ask me about dinner, they quickly said to forget it and walked away.

“We don’t often hug, kiss, or hold hands in public, for fear of getting negative reactions.”

Carrie, who doesn’t have children and Alan who is a grandfather of two, told Jam Press that there are so many benefits to an age gap relationship.

“We love each other very much and always want to work through any issues.

“The maturity of the older mate provides the younger person with stability and reassurance.

“The younger of the two provides energy and enthusiasm for life to the older. And each can learn a great deal from the other.

“A negative is that I often worry about what my life would be like without Alan. I worry about being alone, especially since I have no children.”

The two have just started a podcast for people who are in an age gap relationship like themselves, in the hope it’s beneficial.

Speaking about the podcast, Carrie said: “We started the Age Gap Love Story podcast to help others navigate the challenges of this type of relationship.

“We want to offer support and community to a group of people we feel are often ostracized and neglected.

“We hope to keep our romance alive and enjoy life together to its fullest.”

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