My partner won’t kiss me when I’m sick and I’m upset – but people say I’m being ‘ridiculous’
- A US woman asked if it was ‘normal’ that he beau doesn’t kiss when she’s sick
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A woman has sparked debate about hygiene within intimate relationships after complaining her boyfriend won’t kiss her when she’s sick.
The girlfriend, believed to be from the US, explained on Reddit that she recently had a cold but her boyfriend would only hug her from behind as he didn’t want to catch her germs.
She asked if others found this ‘normal’ and said that in past relationships, she would still be intimate with her partner while feeling ill.
Lots of people responded to her question with their opinions – although a few people branded the girlfriend ‘ridiculous’ and said it was perfectly reasonable for her boyfriend not to want to get sick.
The post read: ‘I recently got a bad cold and my boyfriend hasn’t done anything physical with me other than a hug from behind.
A woman revealed on Reddit that she finds it weird that her partner doesn’t want to kiss or do anything physical when she is sick (stock image)
‘He said he doesn’t want to get sick and doesn’t know what I expect of him. Is this normal?
‘With any of my past relationships, despite them being sick we would still kiss and cuddle so that’s just what I’m used to. What do normal people do?’
People were confused by the woman’s question with the majority saying that ‘normal people’ don’t intentionally go out of their way to get sick.
One person said: ‘Kissing when sick is a definite no. Me and my fiancée don’t kiss when either of us are sick or feeling bad. It’s not about lack of affection it’s about respect for each other and not wanting to get each other sick.’
Another said: ‘I mean I’d definitely not kiss them on the mouth at that point. And no, it’s not abnormal to keep your distance from someone who is sick. I thought we all learned this over the past few years.
‘The bottom line, really, is that this is about personal boundaries.’
Someone else wrote: ‘That seems normal to me. It’s normal to not want to get sick. My husband and I tend to keep our distance when the other is sick.
Taking to Reddit , the woman, who is believed to be from the US, explained that she recently has a cold but her boyfriend would only hug her from behind as he didn’t want to get sick also
Many rushed to the comments with some calling the woman ‘ridiculous’ as it is normal to not want to get sick
‘He’ll give me forehead kisses and that’s about it. Same for me. I hate being sick and it’s hard financially when we have to call in to work.’
While a fourth agreed: ‘It is… very normal not to want to get sick. When I’m sick I won’t kiss him because I don’t want to get him sick. If we’re both symptomatic, sure- let’s go for it.
‘But also, kissing with a runny nose is kinda gnar and it is completely fair for a person to want to avoid illness.’
Others even said they would go as far as sleeping in separate rooms when they are sick.
One person wrote: ‘No. And I don’t want them kissing me because I don’t want them getting sick. Cheek or forehead is acceptable. Usually if one of us is contagious sick, the other will sleep in a different room.’
Another said: ‘My parents are going on 45 years and yeah, if one of them is down with something, they sleep in the spare bedroom for a few days till it subsides. My dad doesn’t get sick often, but if he gets a cold or other upper respiratory thing he’s down for like 2 months trying to fully recover, so he avoids that like it’s the plague.
While others even said they would go as far as sleeping in separate rooms when they are sick
‘And my mom doesn’t get sick a ton either, but it’s just easier for her to not pass it to dad or vice versa. And my husband and I are similar.
‘If I’m down with something, even though he’s got a bullet proof immune system, one or the other of us will sleep elsewhere and there’s not much physical contact for some days till the worst is over.’
Someone else said: ‘After 36 years of marriage we now stay on opposite ends of the house if either of us feels sick. It works.’
While others said they continue to kiss and cuddle when they’re sick because if they live together it is ‘inevitable’ they will pass it on to their partners.
While others said they continue to kiss and cuddle when they’re sick because if they live together it is ‘inevitable’ they will pass it on to their partners
One person revealed: ‘I live with my husband so we still kiss and cuddle if we’re mildly because we live together and if one is sick, the other shortly follows anyway.’
Another claimed: ‘I live with my girl and if she’s sick i’m gonna kiss her and hug her and love her. I would probably rather die than have to watch her be sick and I just sat there like ‘nah i’m not gonna comfort you because I don’t wanna get sick’.’
Someone else wrote: ‘When my partner is sick, she will get all the love, attention, affection needed from me. That will often include a kiss and definitely always includes a cuddle.’
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