We have been trying to have a baby for two years and now I am having erection problems

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife and I are desperate to have a baby and have been trying for two years, with no success.

Our families constantly ask us when we are going to be parents and it’s putting a lot of pressure on us.

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I’m 33 and my wife is 32. We both smoke and are overweight so we’ve tried to get healthy but keep giving in to takeaways and cigarettes.

It’s starting to affect my confidence and over recent months I’ve been struggling to get an erection.

I thought trying for a baby would be really good fun – yet it’s anything but.

DEIDRE SAYS:  Getting healthy will help with erection and fertility issues.

See your GP to rule out any medical causes for your erection problems.

Normally taking sex off the agenda for a short while breaks the cycle of anxiety and erections return to normal.

In your case, the source of your anxiety is likely to be the strong desire to have a baby, so you need to address these issues too.

It’s time to talk to your GP and ask for a referral to a fertility specialist.

Often fertility issues are unexplained and, experts believe, caused by stress.

As you and your wife are so desperate for a family this will be causing anxiety, which ironically could be causing infertility.

Do try to ensure your love-making is relaxed and fun, with as much foreplay as possible.

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